Revisiting The Fifty Shades Of Grey Backlash – “Pedophilia Hiding In Plain Sight”

Last year a reader left a rather long commentary on their feelings regarding the “Fifty Shades of Grey” phenomenon.  That comment was then published here as a standalone article and the significant response in the proceeding months has been both interesting and informative.  Today I took the time to peruse some of the more capable reactions to that original post and wish to share them here.

(Rather innocent bondage porn – or something far more sinister?)

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First, an excerpt from that original post:

“UM,  Way off topic here but I thought I could post something that is really sickening to me in a forum that I know gets a lot of readers.  If you want to remove it I totally understand. It is a letter I wrote to society I guess on the subject of pedophilia and a warning that a whole lot of us are being in a way I guess, abused by something that has become very popular.

Yes, 50 Shades is pornography. Like most pornography, the storyline is weak, the characters one-dimensional, while the sex itself graphic, detailed, but formulaic.  The underlying theme to 50 Shades is something far more sinister and appalling though than your mere run-of-the-mill porn.  It is pedophilia.  It is child porn.  Kiddie porn.

Now I know after saying that, many female fans of 50 Shades, many of them mothers, will naturally put up a defense against that kind of description.  These women, being mothers, are naturally wired to protect kids.  People like Jerry Sandusky are viewed with hatred, revulsion, and disgust.  Rightfully so.  What mother would want to condone anything having to do with the sexual abuse of children?  Of innocents?

…I didn’t seek out 50 Shades of Grey.  It was brought to my attention by a longtime friend who is also a clinical psychologist at a university.  She’s a bit older than me.  She grew up in the counter culture era and did her fair shareof experimentation of all kinds.  So she’s hardly a prude.  What she today though is a mother and grandmother.  And she’s smart.  One of the things that fascinates her is this age of cultural phenomena.  How due to technology things now spread so quickly throughout society and become the next big thing at an increasingly rapid pace.  She says sometimes this phenomena is pretty much harmless, and other times it can be very damaging to kids and or adults who begin to emulate something out of a need to belong to the “next big thing”.

I’ll try and summarize my friend’s words at this point as best I can.

“Sexual predators are cons.  They almost always have a cover.  It’s that cover which allows them access.  50 Shades of Grey is a con.  It now has access to millions of readers.  It is a story about abuse from beginning to end.  And it’s not just the abuse of a man and a woman – it’s the abuse of a man and a girl.

When you read it, look for the signs.  They are all there.

The female character has no sexual experience.  None.  She is given the age of 21, but that age is itself a cover.  Her true emotional age is much-much younger.  She has never even masturbated.  She has never even experienced an orgasm.  That alone is one of the greatest attractions to the pedophile.  That is the psychology of that kind of act.  You get off on taking purity.

But move from the fact the girl has no sexual experience whatsoever.  Now pay attention to her narrative dialogue.  Really listen to how she talks.  Again, she’s not talking like a young woman, she’s talking like a girl.  She talks about cartwheels, and skipping, over and over again it is the language and the imagery of a girl.

After that this girl has her innocence taken from her.  The abuser, the older man, makes her think its her choice.  Again, you and I both know that is one of the primary tools of the pedophile.  They create an environment where the child feels it’s their idea.  It’s what they want. But what happens after that innocence is taken away?  Then the abuser becomes more openly abusive. Controlling.  In this story he tells the little girl how to speak.  What to wear.  What to eat.  He is Daddy and she is daughter.  When you read it read it like a mother who is also a woman who is experienced with the real life tragedy of abuse.

And there is many more themes about that abuse in this book.  There is spanking and the use of Baby oil.  Why baby oil?  Think about it.  The girl wears pigtails.  She complains that he is treating her like a child.  He says she acts like a child.  There is even a scene where the abuser creates a situation to take her innocence from her again.  He rips out her tampon and engages in forceful sex yet again.  Her hymen is ripped, and the bloody remnants of it are again symbolized in an act of pedophile rape.”

She went on to say there are women now defending the book, and she understands that, but it concerns her.  A great deal, because she is absolutely convinced the book is purposely advocating the raping of a child and attempting to normalize that atrocity.”   LINK

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And here are some of the orginal comments from that article in August of 2012:  (CONTENT WARNING)

Anastasia Steele, who is the female main character does talk like a little girl. Looking back on it, all the clues are there. She knows nothing and has to be told about everything. Just like a little kid. I’m feeling sick right now writing this response. And like Kat says about the pig tails. And the skipping and jumping and dancing. Her inner Goddess IS just like a childs imaginary friend. And that friend is telling her to let this man have his way with her.

The clincher has to be the baby oil though. I went back and read that part again. Word for word. It’s child porn. It really is. It’s not an adult acting like a child. Nope. The author created child porn.

I don’t like to curse but this is fucking sick. And I fell for it hook line and sinker.

I need a shower. I’m still figuring all this out but I want to throw up right now. I really do.

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Got this book as a gift from my sister. I got about halfway through it and it didn’t sound right. Yes, the writing sucked. Sucked ass. But there was something not right about it and now I read this letter and it’s like ah hah. That’s it. It’s a book about a powerful guy raping a child. Gonna forward this to my sister. She isn’t going to like it but she needs to read it. She was actually considering letting her 17 year old daughter read the books. How gross is that?

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Gonna love this. So I have this online conversation with my friend. Tell her what she would call a story about a girl who doesn’t know how to do anything even run a computer. She talks about pigtails and cartwheels and gosh, gee wiz and has never had sex or an orgasm or drank and then an older guy takes her and has sex with her.

She goes, “that sounds like fucking CHIMO shit.”

I told her that was the plot to 50 Shades of Grey which she read last month.

Her response? To tell me to FUCK OFF.

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Look at this article. They do a great job of laying out how abusive and predatory the relationship in 50 Shades actually is. Add to this to the summary by the clinical psychologist in this letter and it nails down what so many sad women have latched onto with this horrible book.

It’s not Mommy porn. It’s mom’s getting off on child porn.

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This might be one of the sickest “everyone is doing it” things to happen to our culture. A book that gets moms to get off to a story about sexual abuse of kids. How sick and twisted is that?

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As one who was molested from the ages of 9-14, part of the molestation was encouragement to read “The Happy Hooker” among other books. I seem to be a member of a tiny minority, however, since I was molested by a woman {my godmother} – a few years prior, my mother had become physically and emotionally abusive to me, so I was kind of a prime candidate for the molestation.

When I finally told my mother about it {when I was in my early 20′s}, she initially dismissed it as ‘playing doctor’ and later accused ME of being the seducer …………………. my godmother, if she’s still alive, was born in 1929, the same year as my father. And my father was not aware, because he was career military and away from home for long periods of time, so he does NOT deserve any denigration.

YES, I did seek psych treatment/counseling – but it STILL has an impact.

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This was a very interesting read. I know the books. Read each one. Arrived at the exact same conclusion. By the end there is a very strong attempt by the author to normalize what has just taken place. The victim is seen as getting the prize of a super wealthy man. It is implied she has fixed him and life will be happily ever after. The reality of abuse of course is that the abused becomes an abuser. The child victim of a pedophile becomes a pedophile. There are a growing number in our society who work very hard trying to normalize this. The Obama administration placed a man to run the Dept. of Education who advocates for men having sex with boys. True. Look it up. This book is dangerous and I am so grateful for this article. I hope the message gets out there to more people. There will be a lot of shame among a lot of women who read the story and enjoyed it, but after the shame comes knowledge and hopefully, this kind of thing won’t happen again as easily.

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A young girl walks into a bar. Everyone knows she is underage. Maybe about 15 or so. But she has a fake ID. People at the bar, the guys willing to buy her drinks, they use the fake ID as an excuse to take advantage of her. That is their out even though she is obviously way underage. She acts like a girl. Talks like a girl. She is a girl. They charm her. Make promises to her. Tell her how smart she is. Tell her they want to teach her things. Tell her its ok. It’s normal. It will feel good. When they learn she is a virgin, they become even more insistent. She is convinced to have get drunk and have sex with them. Over time, she repeatedly agrees to be abused. Each case of abuse becomes more violent. More extreme. But the abuse is described to her in very simple terms. It is “sexy” it is “hot” she is told how attractive she is, how good of a “learner’ she is. Others hearing about these descriptions, are turned on by the acts. Even though they know she is just a child, she has fake ID. She said she was 21, right? So that makes it ok. It’s not abuse. It’s erotica.

That is 50 Shades of Grey. The female character is a child in every aspect but one. The author says she is 21 years old. The author gives her a fake ID to make this story of pedophilia OK.

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Now if any of you are still refusing to believe this fact, how about this line from the 50 Shades series?

“I think she likes sex already.”

That’s both the main characters talking about their unborn child. Those who want to defend that line in the context of the story that is one scene of abuse after another, you’re already lost. But for those of you who might now be thinking you’ve been had, that 50 Shades really is a “pedophile con” as the writer of this letter put it, read that line again and you can’t deny the truth.

50 Shades of Grey is evil. And just like the writer said, it’s hiding in plain sight.

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I read all three of the books over the summer and came across this when I was looking to see if the series was going to be continued. I LOVED the books!!! Then I read this and think well maybe she was young and dumb but this is NOT a book about pedophilia. Then I read all these comments and start to really think about it. The one thing that really did kinda gross me out was the line about their unborn daughter when they say “she already likes sex”. That was a very weird thing to say and even then I wondered why the author put that in there. Who talks about a baby like that? So that gets me going back through the books and now I’m on the fence. These stories do have a lot of weird young girl stuff in it. Maybe that’s because the writer started this as Twilite fan fiction where the girl is a teenager and the vampire is like a 100 yrs old? (Which now that I think about it is kind of weird too.) Or maybe her writing is so bad the female character comes off as a lot younger? Or maybe the story really was about an innocent teenage girl who is seduced by a much older man and then the editor changed that up so the story could be published? I don’t really know. What I will say is that this article and all the comments really got me thinking about 50 Shades in a whole new way and like some of the other readers who mentioned it I feel a little stupid for reading the books. The whole young innocent girl thing is really creepy when you step back and look at it. I won’t be reading anything more from this author. There is definitely something up with what she did here. Just doesn’t sit right with me now. Thanks for listening!

Fifty Shades Of Grey – Pedophilia Hiding In Plain Sight (Letter from a reader)

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Now here was commentary on the issue from another blog over at Mommyish.com:

 

Fifty Shades Of Grey Made Fifty Shades Creepier By Child Sexual Abuse Interpretation


Adore it or scorn it, the Fifty Shades Of Grey trilogy is a blockbuster success that pretty much everyone on the planet has either read or heard of at this point, and readers are debating whether or not the books are a thinly veiled collection of child sex abuse stories.

Fifty Shades Of Grey isn’t just a pop-culture phenomenon about dirty dirty sex and how a British mother of two has taken the publishing world by storm. It’s also an example of how women’s sexuality and romantic desires and ideals are wrapped up in pretty bondage ribbons and a strong desire to have the men in their lives be more sexually and emotionally assertive. When you remove the stated age of the lead character of Anastasia Steele it’s easy to question whether the books portray something a lot more awful than just cheesy bondage scenarios and bad writing.  LINK

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There is also this excellent write-up over at AmericanThinker:

 

50 Shades of Grey Trilogy Normalizing Child Sex Abuse

…Looking farther into the pedestrian prose of author E.L. James, aka Erika Mitchell Leonard, we find more than just a titillating tome.  It’s hard to believe that this story ever made it out of the online venue called “fan fiction.”  In a normal world, the author would have been ostracized by literary critics for her lack of plot and her juvenile language.  But much worse than the poor writing are the disguised themes of pedophilia and child abuse.

…After a review of the language used in the book, and having done research on pedophiles, we agree.  We would be hard-pressed to claim that the trilogy is anything but a sick story of an adult 27-year-old male dominating through coercion, sex, and complete control a young lady claiming to be 21 years old but who acts and talks like a child.

…The British author has waged war on conservative American values, and her movement to further objectify women has been deceptively couched in yanking women’s romantic chains while she recklessly portrays a pedophilic man as a flawed human being who needs the love of an innocent girl.  LINK
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Fifty Shades author E.L. James

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9 Comments to Revisiting The Fifty Shades Of Grey Backlash – “Pedophilia Hiding In Plain Sight”
      • M. Simon
      • I doubt it. America was never pure. What America was – and may yet be again – is a place where government didn’t dominate. Where the theft by officials was kept to a minimum. Otherwise we were/are subject to all the sins of the flesh. With “purity” as a cover up.

        I prefer my Lunch Naked. It makes protection possible. Because government cannot protect you. And the illusion that it can makes you vulnerable.

      • j223
      • I don’t think its nice to use her looks to make that kind of claim Ok now that I said that let me also say the books are very weird with all the little girl stuff. Anastasia is not an older girl acting you, The author wrote her up like an actual little girl. No experience with anything, talks super young, thinks super young, the whole thing. For me the whole lollipop scene was a real signal. That is how a child molester would describe it to a little kid. And then the last book at the end where they are basically getting off to the idea of their unborn baby having sex. I was like what the hell is this????? Gross!!!! Why would she put that in there?????

    • M. Simon
    • Now compare that with the psychology of men’s “game” movement.

      Or the well known affinity of women for bad boys.

      Humans is very strange creatures.

    • M. Simon
    • Now compare that with the psychology of men’s “game” movement.

      Or the well known affinity of women for bad boys.

      Humans is very strange creatures.

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    • Jenn
    • This was the part that really convinces me these books are a lot worse than people think. They are not just a little porn for moms. They really are sick and twisted child porn material. I totally agree the 21 age thing is like a fake idea in these books. The female character acts like she is about 13 yrs old. Maybe even younger. It’s really gross.

      “A young girl walks into a bar. Everyone knows she is underage. Maybe about 15 or so. But she has a fake ID. People at the bar, the guys willing to buy her drinks, they use the fake ID as an excuse to take advantage of her. That is their out even though she is obviously way underage. She acts like a girl. Talks like a girl. She is a girl. They charm her. Make promises to her. Tell her how smart she is. Tell her they want to teach her things. Tell her its ok. It’s normal. It will feel good. When they learn she is a virgin, they become even more insistent. She is convinced to have get drunk and have sex with them. Over time, she repeatedly agrees to be abused. Each case of abuse becomes more violent. More extreme. But the abuse is described to her in very simple terms. It is “sexy” it is “hot” she is told how attractive she is, how good of a “learner’ she is. Others hearing about these descriptions, are turned on by the acts. Even though they know she is just a child, she has fake ID. She said she was 21, right? So that makes it ok. It’s not abuse. It’s erotica.”

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